Saturday, November 10, 2012

Out with the twenties, in with the thirties!

Hi lovelies!

It's my birthday today! I've decided to take a break from beauty blogging and share a wellbeing post instead; a letter to myself and anyone who chooses to read it.

Dear self, 

Happy 30th birthday! Today marks thirty years of living, and while it may be sad to part with your twenties, it's exciting to think of all the new possibilities the new decade brings. While it's true you're sacrificing a little youth, you're gaining in wisdom, experience and maturity (hopefully, anyway). You may not be where you'd intended, but life is all about the journey, not the destination, so be flexible and allow yourself some leeway.

Here are several things you learned along the way, it might be best to keep them handy for when the going gets rough.
  • It's normal to miss someone even when you no longer want them in your life. Missing someone acknowledges the richness they brought into your life, but people enter your life for a reason, and when that reason is over, it's best to let them go and move on (even if it hurts).
  • You will NEVER be able to please everyone. It's easier to be true to yourself as you are the only person who'll ever have your own best interests at heart.
  • It's been a year where you cut ties with many people, for many reasons. While it seems lonely at times, it's wiser to sever ties with those who drain you emotionally/mentally, and be at peace with yourself and the world. Friendship should be easy, not something to struggle with.
  • It's okay to feel a little flat sometimes. Always remember that tomorrow is a new day which brings new possibilities, and leave your sadness behind and start afresh.
  • There'll always be people who put you down to feel better about themselves, but it's far more satisfying to take the high road and know that you are the better person for it.
  • It's also okay to occasionally doubt yourself, self-reflection is a good way of reassessing your goals and there's a very fine line between confidence and arrogance.
  • It sometimes seems like life isn't progressing as you'd like, but considering yourself a failure belittles the successes you've had, without which, you wouldn't be who you are.
  • Remember that the biggest satisfaction comes from doing things because you wanted to, not because you were expected to or because you felt you should.
  • Comparing yourself to others might be impossible to avoid, but remember that everyone has their own journey and trials, and dawn always comes, no matter how dark the night seems (in other words, all things eventually come to an end).
  • Above all, always try to be the best person you can be, for you need to be able to face yourself in the mirror and be at peace with who you are.
Here's to an amazing decade ahead, and may it surpass all expectations~!

Me.

44 comments:

  1. Wish you a very happy birthday, lovely! Have a wonderful day and a great year ahead <3
    Welcome to 30's :) It doesn't feel that different really! I love all those wise words of yours. Thank you for this post. I can totally relate, it is like you are talking to me! xoxo

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    1. Thank you so much, Su! I had a lovely day! And you're right, it doesn't really feel different. :)

      I'm so glad you could relate, I think we all can, really!

      xx

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  2. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you have an AMAZING day! xo

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  3. What a wonderful blog post! It really touched me as well as I will be turning 40 at the end of the year :) I hope you have a super happy birthday today, and I wish you all the best for an amazing decade ahead!

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    1. Thank you so much, Kristine!

      I really did! But how exciting that we're the same decade for the next few weeks! :D

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  4. Happy birthday!! What a beautiful blog post :) it really hit home for me because I felt like I could relate to each point. Have an amazing day xxx

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    1. Thank you so much, Sarah darling! I had a fantastic day! xx

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  5. A very big happy birthday to you. I hope that you have an awesome day and that you look forward to the journey ahead. I am in my forties now and I can definitely say that even though I have a few more wrinkles, I am happier than I ever have been.

    Your post was beautiful - just like you. Xxxx

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    1. Thank you so much, Kate, both for the lovely wishes and the kind compliment!

      I certainly am looking forward to the future! :)

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  6. Awww this was a lovely post! I really thought you were around my age though (early 20s). Here's to the next 30 x

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  7. Darling Girl,
    I'm typing with tears in my eyes, not because I'm sad but because that letter to Self is so wise and wonderful.
    You have to be one of the most special people I've ever "met" so special that I do feel that I know you.
    The wisdom included in your words about needing to cut ties with some people and in some, draining you is profound - you HAVE to be at peace with yourself or you can't be at peace with the World.
    Happy Birthday, special girl. You deserve the very best.
    Sending my love and wishes for the wonderful life you have ahead of you. My world really is richer because you've entered it.
    A huge hug,
    Trish_D.

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    1. Oh, Trish, you never fail to touch my heart with your words. What an amazing comment and I treasure it so very much more than I could possibly put into words.

      It is very difficult, I admit, but it's just something to keep reminding myself to do.

      FWIW, I am so very glad I met you!

      Lots of hugs and kisses back,
      xx.

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  8. I love the letter to yourself. While reading it I was thinking I need to think like that, a lot of it touched me. So thank you for it.

    I hope you have the happiest of birthdays!! :D

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    1. Thank you so much, Tara. I think we just have to keep reminding ourselves to think like this when times get tough!
      I had a wonderful birthday!
      xx

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  9. Happy birthday! I loved reading this, it gave me a lot of inspiration, and not just for getting older or hitting a certain milestone, but just for life in general!
    xx

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    1. Thank you so much, Jasmine! On all counts! xx

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  10. Happy birthday! Wow you really don't look like you're 30 yet! xoxo

    http://kitschsnitch.blogspot.com.au/

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    1. Aw, thank you so much, Kat! I need to buy you a BIG drink for that! Haha. xx

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  11. Love this, I can definitely relate to a lot of these :) Hope you had a wonderful birthday, here's to a fabulous year ahead!

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  12. Happy Birthday! It's my birthday today too! Well we're a day apart but happy birthday to us! :) I'm turning going into my 20's today and I really relate to everything you've written (I think most people do). Hope you had an amazing day with people you love :)

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    1. oops my sentence made no sense haha I meant that *I'm going into my 20's" not turning going lol :P

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    2. How wonderful! Congratulations! :)

      I had a great day and I hope you have a wonderful day too! xx

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  13. Happy Birthday! You might not think you're wise, but you're doing a pretty good job of it. All the best :-)

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  14. Happy Birthday beautiful. What a wonderful letter to yourself - I got a lot of benefit from reading it. Thank you for sharing. I have put a little something in the post for you xxx

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    1. Aw, thank you, Raylene! I'm so glad you liked it, I was speaking from the heart.

      Thank you also for the little something!

      xx

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  15. Happy Birthday gorgeous, and what a wonderful letter to write to yourself. So clever and so right!

    Hope you have had a good birthday and enjoy the best of what the exciting thirties have to offer X

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    1. Thank you so much, Ingy!

      I'm glad you liked it. :)

      xx

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  16. A lovely letter - it definitely was food for thought for me! Thanks for posting :)

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  17. Happy Birthday!! I really enjoyed this post, I think its very true!

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  18. Happy Birthday! :) this is a really thought provoking post; I think it's useful to do things like this. Do you journal at all? I did for some years and found it really therapeutic - you've motivated me to start it up again! :)

    Ps. This is Sarah from a beautiful story - Blogger blogs sign ins don't work on the iPad for Name/URL option... Unsure why!

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    1. Hi Sarah! :)

      Thank you very much. I used to but I have since given it up (for now at least, who knows what might happen in the future)?

      Glad that you've been inspired!

      xx

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  19. Bummed I missed your birthday!!!! Happy really belated birthday Nalini! xx And what you've written to yourself, well, is so true.

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